How do you handle an angry or negative response to a question you asked? This question surfaced at a recent webinar.
That never happens, right? WRONG! This situation can
absolutely happen, especially if the coaching relationship has not been
established and the coach is not viewed as a trusted colleague. How the coach
handles the situation makes all the difference in establishing a healthy
coaching relationship.
If the coach is not familiar with the teacher’s beliefs and
practices, then most likely, there has not been a conversation about how those
beliefs influence practice. Without that conversation, how does the coach know
which approach to the coaching interaction will “feel” appropriate? If there
has not been a conversation about how students learn and grow, then the
questions the coach asks could be perceived as intimidating and threatening. To
avoid this situation, coaches must establish relationships with their teaching
colleagues and help them understand the role and function of an instructional
coach before they engage in conversations about practice. That's the "before the before" conversation!
How about this…If the coaching conversation is mandated by
the principal, the teacher’s response might not be warm and fuzzy. After all,
how many teachers are comfortable being forced to have a conversation about
their teaching skills when they don’t know if the coach is evaluating them and
reporting to the principal? The coach must build trust before asking questions. On the other hand, if the coach’s role has been
shared and made explicit to the staff with the coach making his/her
expectations visible and then the principal suggests that the teacher contact
the instructional coach for support, that would most likely result in a
positive response.
Remember, coaching is not a “fixit” model. Coaches are not
there to “fix” what’s wrong with anyone’s instructional delivery. The coach is
there as a trusted colleague, an experienced practitioner who helps teachers
recognize their full potential and take ownership of their own learning. The
coach helps guide; the teacher does the rest.
How have you handled a
response that was angry or negative? How did you turn that around into
something positive?
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